Nowadays, emotional intelligence is emphasized to be very important to the success of a person, and it is believed that family and society can help the young develop their emotional intelligence. However, there are some obstacles to be removed.
In my opinion, there are two main problems that make the help from family and society not very effective. (I just take the situation in China as example.) The first one is the influence of Internet-----the virtual reality. Many teenagers are addicted into the virtual reality. They spend a large amount of time facing with a machine and seldom communicate with peers or even their parents, the interpersonal skills are very poor. Secondly, the one –child policy leads to the lack of the sense of share. There is only one child in most families in China. Many children are spoiled by parents and grandparents. He/she can easily get whatever he/she wants and he/she does not need to share with others. That is the reason why many undergraduates have problems of the relationship with classmates in China. Besides, the workload for teenagers is relatively high in China. Studying takes up the main part of his life so that there is not enough time and chances for teenagers to interact with peers.
These problems prevent the development the emotional intelligence of teenagers seriously and cause the help not effective. How to solve the problems?
The basic solution may be to encourage teenagers to communicate with peers more frequently and spend less time online. The second is that parents and relatives should not spoil him/her and should develop his capacity of independence and cooperate with others. If possible, the workload of studying should be reduced to leave students more time to develop their interests and emotional intelligence. The fundamental rule is to provide them more chances to know the importance of emotional intelligence, spend more time with peers, know him/her and others and accumulate the experience of interpersonal skills. With the guide of this basic rule, I think the problems will be solved.
Friday, September 28, 2007
cause and effect
High emotional intelligence will enhance the contribution of all professions, nothing difference for the new engineers-----engineering graduates. What are the effects that if the engineering graduates have high emotional intelligence? Firstly, the good management and impulse control will keep the graduates always making rational decision.
In the work of engineering, mood and impulse should not be involved in the decision making, as the irrational decision may cause disasters. Secondly, self-motivation makes engineering graduates keep passion on the engineering job. The engineering job is not as colorful as the university life. It is all about data and calculations, graduates with self-motivation give their desire to be interested in it and work well. Thirdly, the interpersonal skills will help the graduates get well with their colleagues. Hence, they can collaborate and make full of their strength so that they can maximize their competences to work out the best project. The fact is that any building in the world is not built by only one engineer. Therefore, the interpersonal skills help the new engineers a lot. On the contrast, without the high emotional intelligence, maybe he will be bored by the job and even quit it. How can he do well in it? In a nutshell, high emotional intelligence strongly improves the performance of the new engineers---- engineering graduates.
In the work of engineering, mood and impulse should not be involved in the decision making, as the irrational decision may cause disasters. Secondly, self-motivation makes engineering graduates keep passion on the engineering job. The engineering job is not as colorful as the university life. It is all about data and calculations, graduates with self-motivation give their desire to be interested in it and work well. Thirdly, the interpersonal skills will help the graduates get well with their colleagues. Hence, they can collaborate and make full of their strength so that they can maximize their competences to work out the best project. The fact is that any building in the world is not built by only one engineer. Therefore, the interpersonal skills help the new engineers a lot. On the contrast, without the high emotional intelligence, maybe he will be bored by the job and even quit it. How can he do well in it? In a nutshell, high emotional intelligence strongly improves the performance of the new engineers---- engineering graduates.
Sunday, September 9, 2007
compare and contrast (2nd Draft)
Both emotional intelligence and intellectual intelligence are very important to the development of an undergraduate, but they contribute in different ways.
According to Daniel Goleman, who wrote an influential book on emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence consists of five qualities: self-awareness, mood management, self-motivation, impulse control and interpersonal skills. Among theses qualities, self-motivation is the critical quality for an undergraduate. Anyone cannot like all the courses in the university. It is self-motivation that makes him/her keep passion on the modules which he/she does not like. What is more, it is self-motivation that makes him/her get a good result. Secondly, good mood management plays an important role in coping with stress which comes from exams, assignments, relationship with others and after-class activities. A student with good mood management will keep an optimistic attitude to stress and handle properly so that stress can motivate him/her rather than ruin him/her. Thirdly, interpersonal skills helps a student get well with his/her classmates and teachers and make a lot of friends. Therefore, they can study collaboratively, which is more efficient than studying alone. In addition, he/she will get CCA much more easily as he/she can get into the activity group easily.
Respectively, according to the report “Intelligence: Knowns and Unknowns” of APA in1955, intellectual intelligence was defined as the ability to understand complex ideas, to adapt effectively to the environment, to learn from experience, to engage in various forms of reasoning, to overcome obstacles by taking thought. From this definition, there is no doubt that it contributes to the academic issues of an undergraduate as the essence of intelligence is the way of thinking. Just like in mathematics, it requires the student to think logically and creatively. Without intellectual intelligence, students cannot do this job well; even emotional intelligence does not work. Another important aspect is learning through experience, everyone has no competence besides eating and drinking when he/she was born. Learning from experience gives people the power to make progress; it is the same to the undergraduate.
In conclusion, both emotional intelligence and intellectual intelligence play important roles in the development of the undergraduate, but in different aspects.
According to Daniel Goleman, who wrote an influential book on emotional intelligence, emotional intelligence consists of five qualities: self-awareness, mood management, self-motivation, impulse control and interpersonal skills. Among theses qualities, self-motivation is the critical quality for an undergraduate. Anyone cannot like all the courses in the university. It is self-motivation that makes him/her keep passion on the modules which he/she does not like. What is more, it is self-motivation that makes him/her get a good result. Secondly, good mood management plays an important role in coping with stress which comes from exams, assignments, relationship with others and after-class activities. A student with good mood management will keep an optimistic attitude to stress and handle properly so that stress can motivate him/her rather than ruin him/her. Thirdly, interpersonal skills helps a student get well with his/her classmates and teachers and make a lot of friends. Therefore, they can study collaboratively, which is more efficient than studying alone. In addition, he/she will get CCA much more easily as he/she can get into the activity group easily.
Respectively, according to the report “Intelligence: Knowns and Unknowns” of APA in1955, intellectual intelligence was defined as the ability to understand complex ideas, to adapt effectively to the environment, to learn from experience, to engage in various forms of reasoning, to overcome obstacles by taking thought. From this definition, there is no doubt that it contributes to the academic issues of an undergraduate as the essence of intelligence is the way of thinking. Just like in mathematics, it requires the student to think logically and creatively. Without intellectual intelligence, students cannot do this job well; even emotional intelligence does not work. Another important aspect is learning through experience, everyone has no competence besides eating and drinking when he/she was born. Learning from experience gives people the power to make progress; it is the same to the undergraduate.
In conclusion, both emotional intelligence and intellectual intelligence play important roles in the development of the undergraduate, but in different aspects.
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