problem and solution

Nowadays, emotional intelligence is emphasized to be very important to the success of a person, and it is believed that family and society can help the young develop their emotional intelligence. However, there are some obstacles to be removed.


In my opinion, there are two main problems that make the help from family and society not very effective. (I just take the situation in China as example.) The first one is the influence of Internet-----the virtual reality. Many teenagers are addicted into the virtual reality. They spend a large amount of time facing with a machine and seldom communicate with peers or even their parents, the interpersonal skills are very poor. Secondly, the one –child policy leads to the lack of the sense of share. There is only one child in most families in China. Many children are spoiled by parents and grandparents. He/she can easily get whatever he/she wants and he/she does not need to share with others. That is the reason why many undergraduates have problems of the relationship with classmates in China. Besides, the workload for teenagers is relatively high in China. Studying takes up the main part of his life so that there is not enough time and chances for teenagers to interact with peers.

These problems prevent the development the emotional intelligence of teenagers seriously and cause the help not effective. How to solve the problems?

The basic solution may be to encourage teenagers to communicate with peers more frequently and spend less time online. The second is that parents and relatives should not spoil him/her and should develop his capacity of independence and cooperate with others. If possible, the workload of studying should be reduced to leave students more time to develop their interests and emotional intelligence. The fundamental rule is to provide them more chances to know the importance of emotional intelligence, spend more time with peers, know him/her and others and accumulate the experience of interpersonal skills. With the guide of this basic rule, I think the problems will be solved.